【4K超高清版】【圆桌派 第七季】EP03 反应：“人有自己想不到的能力” | 窦文涛/陈鲁豫/许戈辉/马未都 | 优酷纪实人文 YOUKU DOCUMENTARY

【4K超高清版】【圆桌派 第七季】EP03 反应：“人有自己想不到的能力” | 窦文涛/陈鲁豫/许戈辉/马未都 | 优酷纪实人文 YOUKU DOCUMENTARY

This program is sponsored by GAC Honda Guandao, a luxury car company with ingenuity and strength, and more comfortable ride. This program is co-sponsored by Yibao Zhiben Qingrun™ Chrysanthemum Tea. There are two beauties who have a deep relationship with me. We were playmates in childhood and later we became like family, but in fact we seldom meet. Today, the two of them are willing to come together to the round table to fulfill my dream. I am still in good health. I am okay . I think that if I don’t see someone for more than half a year, I will look a lot older. You are not so good, that’s good. I met Teacher Ma first. Look at Ma Ye’s son. I said, I really didn’t expect him to be so handsome. Why did you say that? That was my youngest son. Now I have become Teacher Ma’s eldest daughter. Yes, I am quite good at connecting the dots. Teacher Ma is hesitant in his heart. No, I am very good. You can use Teacher Ma’s mouth to say what is in your heart. Let’s start, let’s start as soon as we sit down and start The two of you looked at each other, Ge Hui, and our eyes met. So our eyes met, right? I found that Ge Hui’s eyes were a little narrowed now, and he was a little charming at that time. Why did you only realize my charm today ? It’s too late. Lu Yu, do you know this? What is this dry branch called? I don’t know if it has a name. It is a professional term. What is it called? I will teach you. Remember it. This thing is called sarira. You have taught me something. Moreover, these relics refer specifically to pine and cypress. Other types are not considered pine and cypress. The living ones are alive . This kind of pine and cypress bonsai. This kind of dry branch is all called sarira. People will say that this sarira is good. That’s what they are talking about. Then they say that mine has some Buddhist meaning, right? People deliberately lean on it. Isn’t the sarira also that crystallized essence? Are you so rich already? Wentao, I really don’t have money. I Wentao is too rich. It turns out that you are a rich man , not really. If you want to buy this next time, come to me and I promise to buy it for you at a very low price. I’m not rich, I just saw this and liked it on impulse. This kind of thing is spiritual “opium”, yes, you’re addicted. Look how beautiful it is. It is indeed beautiful. And it’s the same as a woman buying a bag. It’s spiritual “opium”. I know that woman. If you don’t buy it, it’s easy to get over it now . Maybe you can’t get over this thing. Finally, one day I suddenly felt very bored. I also comforted myself about this matter . It’s the same with antiques. I also comforted myself. I think it maintains its value. The other day I saw a short video of you taking a bottle and smashing it. The bottle was smashed. Is it real or fake ? It’s just a gimmick . Once it was smashed, it got tens of millions of clicks. The funniest thing is that I saw that someone commented behind it and said, “Please try to smash the third one for me.” And the acting was very good. The editing was very good. You have to smash it. Don’t I don’t know if it fell to the ground. When it fell for the second time, I was really shocked. I think, not only you were shocked, but I was also shocked. Why? The second thing is that it has a big belly. It fell to the ground with a loud bang. You know, everyone present was shocked. Why did you do this? It will definitely spread well. The second thing is that it is telling a truth . Once this porcelain is broken, there is nothing you can do to save it. But Mr. Ma’s acting skills are good. Mr. Ma is now the one who keeps pace with the times and is at the forefront among us. I was not originally in the same business as you three. It is not you who is ahead of us. The three of us were there that day. I heard that you three were all controlling people. I was controlled. No, that day I heard Mr. Ma talk about how he went to shoot a movie and a TV series when he was young. Later he said that it was fortunate that he did not act in it. He said it was a good thing it wasn’t released. He thought, I hold my bag with my left hand and my right hand, which foot should I use to push the door? He said he froze. It was so funny. Many directors asked me to act. I said I couldn’t act, I knew myself. Then Jiang Wen told me that everyone can act. I said I couldn’t. He said I was acting like the one who couldn’t act. He told me that I had too strong a self-esteem. It’s not about self. In fact, acting is possible. At that time , acting was the first priority because sometimes it requires you to, for example, there is a sense of distance when we talk . There is a sense of distance when Ge Hui and I talk. He asked me to stand so close to the actor so that he could get it in the shot . In real life, we can’t talk so closely to a stranger. Then he immediately didn’t know what to do. You have to talk about this. Last time, Feng Xiaogang asked me to play a role of Shu Qi who got drunk and ran away. I played a male with bad intentions in a public area, and he seemed to be snoring at her back . He wanted to chat with her. I found that you and Shu Qi were wearing a dress with her back bare. If we were to really act, I found that you could do it in real life, but if you were asked to act, I wouldn’t be really acting. I don’t know if he could do it in or out of the play. I didn’t dare to put it on her naked back. I pinched her where there was a little cloth. I was still Shu Qi, and I felt that Shu Qi was straightforward. I think Shu Qi was too calm and rational. I would examine myself all day long. What are you doing? You can’t do it at all . And I tell you, you are really committed. Maybe our actors are different from those who came out . We filmed a soap opera called “Lao Dou’s Family” and “Lao Dou’s Bar” back then. You know, now I think of “Lao Dou Bar”. All the famous directors have directed it. At that time, they had no scenes to shoot. Only Guan Hu, I remember Guan Hu and Li Chengru were acting opposite each other. I acted a scene where I was about to lose my temper and bang the table and start to say “It’s fake “. Guan Hu told me for a long time to have a cigarette and then said “You have to be really angry”. I really did it. My head was dizzy and it was really like this, but I scared Li Chengru silly, so I knew it wasn’t about being really angry. We couldn’t grasp the degree. What happened to Li Chengru, Wentao, so I was very self-aware at the time . A director came to me and said ” Come and have an audition. We think this role is particularly suitable for me. ” You’re the female lead. I said I can’t do it. He said you need to speak English to play this role. I said I really can’t. He said who do you think can do it ? I said I could speak English. I said Maggie Cheung and Joan Chen would do it. Later I told my colleague that you are too shameless. You put yourself on the same level as that international movie star . But Master Ma, why did I say that ? I said your face is natural, as if you have a role and can express emotions . And his language and tone are very lifelike. For example, if he wants to be sinister , you must have a blank expression on your face. For example, if you play a “gangster”, the “gangster” on the surface is secretly dealing in antiques . I found out that day that I was filming this “Old Dou Bar” “Lao Dou’s Family” What? Later I forgot that Yu Qian had been to my place. Is this Qiangzi? Isn’t he Qiangzi? How did you grow up like this? You are such a handsome young man . Let’s hold hands . Hello, hello, handsome boy. How old are you this year ? 20 (years old) You are really a joke. How can you be 20 (years old) with this look? Just look at your belly. You are at most 18 (years old) . The actors who are popular today all went there. They were all idle at that time . I remember Liu Wei always invited a guest star to him. So these celebrities who are famous today didn’t seem to be popular at that time. How did you treat them at that time? Of course it ‘s okay . You didn’t flatter the powerful and look down on the weak. No, I was the worst actor at that time. I had no confidence in my acting. You know, in the later period, I made excuses not to go. Liu Wei played my brother named Dou Wen or something, so he came. In the end, they acted and said that Wentao was busy with work in Hong Kong and wouldn’t be back this week , so they made it quite lively. In fact, in China, this kind of drama that is shot and released at the same time has never survived. There is really no good drama that can survive. “I Love My Family” versus “I Love My Family” “I Love My Family” is also not the kind that is filmed and shown at the same time. It is finished after the scripts are shot . But it is the kind that there are real audiences on the scene. But now if you want to shoot and show at the same time, you actually have to keep up with the times. What happens every day is considered a tense drama, that is, what happened today you will hear about tomorrow , right? For example, it is very cold in Beijing today , and the next day your soap opera comes out saying why it is so cold and it shouldn’t be so cold. The lines sound simple, but he can empathize with us. We are talking about what is popular recently, right? It’s too difficult. Okay? Okay, Mr. Ma, you have to allow me to wear red today. Why is it that you and I have two best friends in this life, and we three have a half -life relationship in the other half of our lives? They are willing to let us have no relationship in this life. We were together as soon as we were born , and we have the second half of our lives . You pointed out our future hopes for the three of us, right? For the two of them to be able to fulfill my dream together, I feel like it’s a holiday . Of course, we came here for Teacher Ma , not me. I came here for Teacher Ma and for you. What do you think ? You are the only one like the host. Actually, I have known them both for a long time. By the way , when I met her, she was a little girl. You knew her better than me. I have known her for a long time. Yes, yes , they knew her a long time ago . She was a host of CCTV at that time. She was not in CCTV at that time. She was still in school. Actually, neither of us entered CCTV . We just did a program there. At that time, we thought that CCTV programs were CCTV. Now, it doesn’t matter. Now let me say something that may offend them. I don’t have a TV. There is really no TV at home. The TV has been replaced. In fact, the three of us have left the TV camp. That’s right, right? But I said that the three of us have been ahead of us one after another. The one who has been ahead of us is Master Ma. That guy is always smashing cans. Yes, I think what Mr. Ma is doing now is a gimmick. It’s the youngest and the most cutting-edge thing. He really deals with the oldest objects, but he is doing the most cutting-edge things. The main reason is that he is afraid of being left behind by the times. You see, we just discussed this topic. Master Ma, do you have this sense of urgency ? Actually, I don’t. I mean, if I want to retire, I will retire, but people always have to do something. I have liked to join in the fun since I was young, and I have done so many things. It’s just that when I was young , I was willing to join in the fun. If people don’t mind, you can go. But you see, you can find a way to join in the fun in every era. Yes, this is a skill. Many times I want to join in but I can’t. That ‘s the problem with the Time Train, right? The problem with the Time Train is whether you can climb up or not . This is a series, right? The Time Train, Ge Hui, have you climbed up or fallen down over the years ? I’m running with the train, okay? Ge Hui, you’re an athlete now, can you introduce yourself to me? Athletes often say to me that I’m a semi-professional athlete now. I’m obsessed with playing ball and tennis . To what extent am I obsessed ? I’ll participate in mass amateur competitions. What kind of competitions are there? There are men and women, young and old, from children in their teens to the elderly, for example, people in their sixties. Men and women, young and old, regardless of age or group, just play games. Everyone , really, I used to face children who were about ten years old. They played very well and had good physical strength. Tennis requires a lot of physical strength, right ? Then their grandparents came to play games with them, and they thought I was also a grandparent. Ge Hui is full of positive energy wherever she goes. Have you noticed that she has always been playing badminton since we played badminton ? The three of us played badminton, but I didn’t play with you two. I was lying down. This is called jealousy . She was curled up on the sofa . Yes , she really played badminton back then , and now she plays tennis . After skiing, my god, I have to admit defeat. It’s really amazing and very energetic. You will know that you can’t play it and you ca n’t chase the ball. I tried it and it didn’t work immediately. The coach served me the ball and said, ” Catch it. ” He just threw it to me and fed it to me. I hit it for five minutes. After five minutes, the coach said to stop and looked at my arm and said, “Don’t play it. Go to the bathroom and rinse your arm with cold water.” My arm was red and congested. Then at noon, I saw my hand shaking when I took the cup and couldn’t hold it. After that, I brushed my teeth for a week and it was like this. No, do you know why I like playing tennis and participating in competitions ? I once participated in a I was in a competition , and before the competition, I suddenly felt nervous. I thought, I am so nervous. For example, if I am hosting a competition in a stadium, why am I nervous when I am about to go on stage? Later, I told my daughter about it, and she asked me three questions. First, she said, “Mom, is there any prize money in this competition?” I said, “Do you think your daughter has a chance ? Do you think it is the four Grand Slams?” I said, “The prizes I get are usually a pair of sports socks or something.” She asked, “Is it broadcasted? ” I said, “You overestimate your mother. I want to play in a broadcasted competition. That may be in my next life. ” She said, “Is there anyone you know cheering for you?” I said, “Jesus.” Basically everyone is fighting on their own and no one pays attention to you. She said, “Why are you nervous? Your daughter can teach the hosts. ” Actually, I think she hit me right in the face. Were you nervous afterwards or not ? After your daughter said that, you were not nervous anymore. I became less and less nervous afterwards. It’s just that you take yourself too seriously. So each industry has its own skills , right? Today we invited two hosts to talk about it. Let’s start with a skill , which is adaptability . Master Ma, you are also an expert. But when they talk about adaptability , they tell me about the time when Ni Ping suddenly read out a telegram during the Spring Festival Gala, and then the person who didn’t get the telegram had four blank sheets of paper, and then she made up these congratulatory messages from all over the country . That’s amazing. I think Lu Yu also has this ability. You know, after I heard about this, I felt that because we are all hosts, you will have a feeling of “lips and teeth are cold when the lips are gone, and the fox mourns when the lips are gone, and the lips and teeth are cold when the lips are gone . You will feel , my God, at this moment, if you do nothing right, others will say how could you make up something that doesn’t exist in such an occasion? It’s not real, but if I don’t make it up , what about those few minutes? The few minutes of death will also be my fault . You will find that this position is not real, and you will feel grief for the loss of the rabbit and the fox in an instant . So when you tell this story, I don’t think that the adaptability is amazing. I only think it is more dangerous than shaving your head . Don’t you remember that the three of us were broadcasting the funeral of Princess Diana in Hong Kong at that time ? Didn’t we have this problem at that time ? The signal couldn’t come through, or it took a long time and you needed to fill it with words. The Hong Kong director would tell you to stretch it, but it was okay at that time. We were talking about some background information. At that time, you wouldn’t have this kind of thing. I have to say it for a longer time . No, no, I asked Wentao what you think . It’s not like this. These are two scenes. The scene you just mentioned is the broadcast of scenes like the funeral of Princess Diana. Strictly speaking , this space can be long or short, but your programmed one like the Spring Festival Gala is not flexible, right? Strictly speaking, you are not the most dangerous at this time. What is the most dangerous? You broadcast the news and give you a blank sheet of paper to see how you can adapt. You can’t adapt except to collapse because that would be even more “dead” and there would be no space. Master Ma, of course, it is an old joke for me . But what you said actually happened to me once . Didn’t I used to be a news anchor for a while, broadcasting the “Current Affairs Express”? Later, some viewers wrote to say that the news reported by this person was not credible, so he was removed from the show. But you know that at that time, when reporting the news, you know that now it is all computer-based automatic teleprompters with a big cover in front of the camera. The news actually scrolls out and you just read it like that. At that time, it was not automatic. You had to step on it with your feet. At that time, I used one foot to step here. The announcer was reading it here. One step was for moving forward and the other was for moving backward . Why did it have to move forward and backward? When it was time for commercials, the announcer would step on the backward step to come back and read it again. Then, after the commercials were over, he would turn the direction back and step on the forward step again . During the commercials, I pressed the button to read backwards, but I forgot to press the button to go forwards. As a result, it was all live. After the commercials were over, I pressed the button and wondered why the news was getting less and less. The words were getting fewer and fewer. You turned it in the opposite direction . I was so nervous that I was looking for the button with my foot underneath. I was reading and looking for the button at the same time , but I couldn’t find it . Do you know what I did? See you after the commercials. I didn’t say anything. You can see the news below. This is the most famous one on our station. This can also be considered a response. You know, Wentao and I were once doing a big event that happened in Hong Kong . We were broadcasting live between the two of us. We had to introduce what was happening at the scene. There were many local celebrities at the scene . Then Wentao said, “Look, there’s so-and-so.” So-and -so, etc., social elites. At that time, I said that this term is very advanced because social elites are rarely used. Then his part ended and we said we would come back after the commercial. Then I said, Wentao, the term you just used is very good. As soon as I finished speaking, the door was pushed open. One of our leaders came over and said, Wentao , stop talking nonsense . How can you say social idlers ? I was stunned at the time and said , even if they are social idlers, you can’t say that . Then the door slammed and they left. We looked at each other and said to Wentao, “What did I say just now?” I said, “You said social elites, social idlers , social idlers. It’s easy to misunderstand this . Generally speaking, it’s easy to misunderstand it. Also, you think they are all kinds of social elites , but maybe from the audience’s perspective, they think they are just idlers, idlers, etc. , so they can easily misunderstand. I have explained the error, so I need to add subtitles. But I think that although Ma Ye is not in our line of work, I think you are famous for your reaction. That is not the case. Don’t you think so? Now when I meet someone older than me, I like to ask them about their age. Do you think your eloquence and reaction ability will change with age? Can you see that the best time has passed ? Do you think so? I think a person ’s best reaction and social accumulation are between 40 and 50 years old. I have passed it, so we have all passed it. I have passed seven years, so we have all passed it . When I am 50, for example, I go to a debate program and I don’t prepare in advance. I don’t know the topic of the debate or anything like that . I am concentrating on listening to what others say, and then all the words in my mouth Strictly speaking, the expression is better than what you think, that is, better than what you think in your brain. No word will be replaced by a weakened word. It won’t be okay around fifty because people are generally in good health now , but at least after sixty, many words don’t follow your mouth. That is, the things you think in your brain are not like that when they come out of your mouth. You know it in your heart. One level lower , the strength is not enough. It’s the feeling of forgetting words when you open your mouth. It’s not forgetting words because we will , for example, I will express a point of view for a long time, such as several minutes, and then I will regret it after I finish speaking. There are some words that I didn’t know how to say. After I finish speaking, I feel that what I said is better than what I thought. This is the feeling. Do you understand? You have finished talking about this . We are all over fifty, the best and can be long-lasting. It is to speak without stumbling. Now I always stumble, that is the function. I have been stumbling for a long time. I think people’s language function is weakening and getting worse and worse. So I used to say that we make money to do the show. Now recently I have begun to have an idea that sometimes we can’t make money but we can still talk. In a few years, maybe we won’t have this ability. But in fact, because the three of us are often on stage together , when we were in Hong Kong, the three of us actually still have a kind of ability. For the three of us, it is really, you say, you say , especially when the three of us are on stage at the same time , you can understand , he can receive you, and she can also write an independent chapter on her own . If you manage yourself well, everything will be fine and there will be no problems. There will be absolutely no problems. And every time the three of us go on stage , each person has to perform for at least seven or eight minutes. Where? Seven or eight minutes. Hong Kong’s return to China , it was broadcast for sixty hours non-stop, sixty hours for three days, right ? We have to take turns to perform in a round-robin battle, in a round-robin battle for several hours, wow wow wow, it all depends on talking. So I think that Master Ma, you should not look down on yourself. Not necessarily. I think the main thing is that the older you get, the less difficult the environment will be for you . People respect you and take care of you, right? But in fact, I always feel that people have abilities that they can’t imagine. If you don’t appear in that turbulent market to fight for it, then you don’t know how long you can float. That’s what I mean. In the turbulent sea, how long can I float on this piece of wood ? You said that many young people also like to ask, that is, you are all very experienced in adaptability . Can this thing be learned? There are many. Why do you learn it? Many professions require it. Not to mention careers, life requires it. You know, a common regret of people is that I should have said this sentence at that time . Why didn’t I say it? I think adaptability is actually a kind of accumulation . One is accumulation and the other is mentality. Just now you said that the three of us have a kind of ability together. I think this An ability may be more of an instinct. In fact, it is a kind of ability that we naturally have. You say it is an ability . Have we cultivated it deliberately? We have never had it. But it is also accumulated and can be trained moderately. For example, let’s take an example. You just asked if anyone came to embarrass me. In fact, from my original intention, I hope that people will embarrass you moderately, because moderate embarrassment will inspire you to have some sudden bursts of ideas. For example, let’s not talk about who it is. Let me give you an example . There is a host who is a singer. Let’s not talk about the name . Many years ago, I did a program for him. People said that this host loves to embarrass people. I said I am least afraid of embarrassing people. He said he embarrassed me and I said, look at how I embarrass him, because you know you have interviewed all kinds of people. If you don’t cooperate with you , it’s embarrassing you. If I don’t answer your questions, it’s difficult for him to interview and then he asked me to tell a story. I told a story. I bought something at that time. I said that the thing was too big. There was no means of transportation at that time , so I had to ride a bicycle. I went home. I said I went home and took a blanket, which is the packaging. I immediately asked him a question . I said blanket, you know, he thought I was going to set a trap, and then he was stunned and stammered, blanket, everyone Everyone knows that I picked up a rope and he broke down. You know, he broke down. That’s right , because all the hosts think that I am proactive. You won’t be asked back. Once you ask him back, I actually don’t mean anything. I just want to tease him because people told me that he will embarrass you. I embarrass him first. Don’t mention how smooth he was that day . He was smooth after just two tries because he knows that I am not an easy person to cooperate with. In fact, I am easy to cooperate with. But before you said blanket and rope, did he embarrass you? No, it hasn’t started yet. You are just defending the first story first. I defended you first. I teased him for a while. No, you can also see that he was on guard in his heart . He might be used to attacking. Then suddenly , if Mr. Ma asked us, “Do you know blankets?” I said, “I know blankets, ” but I might be stunned . No, I might be stunned, because but I wouldn’t say that I was very upset. What are you going to do to him? He wants to set a trap . I won’t have this feeling, but I will be stunned for a while because I think all the blankets and ropes that Mr. Ma talked about might be some kind of antiques. If you answer him, if he asks me, “I know, but the simplest way is When you have no way to answer a question , just answer honestly. Yes, it’s best to say “yes”. ” I don’t know” or “I do know”. “Yes” , it’s my feeling at the time. It’s okay. You say I know blankets but I don’t know what kind of blankets you have. Yes, you can deal with this kind of thing, right? Because it’s difficult for me because they don’t tell me or they do something for the effect of the show . A few times, it’s a show . The host, let’s not talk about it. At that time, it seems that I said something bad about others. He suddenly said that we are almost done with the show. He said that we have viewers online who want to ask questions to Teacher Ma . Of course I said yes. The first question was, “Teacher Ma , what you just said is too subjective.” Then I immediately said this. Most people will defend themselves and say that what I said is not subjective or something. The first sentence I said was that what I said was subjective . I only represent myself, which is subjective. I am not a survey company that surveyed 10,000 samples. I organized this report to show you . It is objective. Because it is easy to deny in Chinese cultural education, it is a general weakness that society considers. For example, your subjectivity is a relatively negative word in our lives , right ? You said Wentao, your matter is too subjective. It is not a compliment to you. So most people don’t admit it. I will admit it when I go up to them. I think it’s called moderate attack. I will admit it. After admitting it, I will explain why I am like this and there will be no problem. You said that this can be learned and taught. Are there hosts who want to embarrass the guests? Of course there are many. I have never had this idea. I don’t think so. That’s right. It’s because of you that you can’t become the most famous host in the world , right? Even the most famous hosts in the world are famous for making things difficult for people. I am not even as famous as the most famous host in Hebei . But making things difficult for people will never be effective. It’s not your major . Your English is too good. The most famous host in the United States was called Wallace, wasn’t he interviewing Hillary? Hillary was a little scared at first because he was very tricky . The questions he asked were all broadcasted in real time. You had no way to cover up. Hillary was more or less unwilling to do so . After several communications , he started to interview Hillary. As soon as he (Wallace) walked in with his bag, the first sentence he asked was “dead”. Do you know how he asked it? He said, “I heard you are afraid of me interviewing you. ” How should I answer this question as Hillary? How should she answer this sentence? Just tell the truth. I was very nervous , right? That’s good. This is what I just said. Be honest . The more honest you are when you have no other choice, the better. I was very nervous because I have heard of your great name for a long time. You will definitely embarrass me . Well, you see, this adaptability is extremely strong. You see, I have learned to apply what I have learned, but most people will say, “I am not you. If I am not you, then wait for death. ” He will definitely come up with something, right? Admit that this is a skill that can be taught, right? In fact, I have come to understand more and more over the years that you must not always be clever just to adapt , because the audience’s eyes are getting sharper and sharper . People can see your inner mentality clearly. You are smart, but there are many people who are smarter than you. So you just have to be honest, frank and kind. In fact, this is the best magic weapon our ancestors taught us to respond to changes with constancy. I now feel that the best way to deal with people is to be loyal to each other. In fact, this is a practice . Why? Most of us always hope that others will think of themselves as better than the actual situation. Do you know? This thought is the devil’s pit, right? If you admit yourself, you will be unlucky, right? It is also a stone, so I am a stone. In fact, I can face everything calmly. Today we are all I can face this calmly because of my age. When you are in your twenties or thirties, you are hot-tempered and you don’t recognize or realize it . You know, the earlier a person’s ability to self-reflect is, the more successful he or she will be. Most people are forced to reflect on themselves. It is only when you hit a wall or mess up something that you gain experience. I once heard a very successful entrepreneur say something because he managed a lot of people. He said that if people under the age of 40 can reflect on themselves, they will be successful. It is too late to reflect after 40. However, most people under the age of 40 cannot reflect on themselves because they are hot-tempered. What right do you have to say that you did this and that last time? He will definitely cover up your past. So you see her reaction just now. When I mentioned the example of Hillary, she immediately said that it was very right. If she was in her twenties, she would definitely not say that. It is determined by age. I believe it is possible that at that time you would not do that because you feel that you cannot completely expose all my weaknesses to you, so your instinctive defensiveness comes out. But I feel that I have changed now. I feel that our program is just a program for us, but for the guest being interviewed, it may be a certain period of his life. So I feel that my Of course, my instinct is first of all I want to chat with you, but secondly I need to protect him , so my instinct may be to protect the other person. I think there was one time when I thought I was doing it very safely. At the end of the live broadcast, we talked about that topic and then I asked him to ask a certain question . I couldn’t say what the question was, and then that person spoke very softly and gave an answer. I was stunned at the time, because if I gave any reaction, it would be bad for him. But at that time, I thought about it instantly because he spoke very softly and slowly, so I pretended that he didn’t say anything and let him go. I think this is the best way to protect him, because you have to know that at the end, the subtitles were about to come out. If you heard certain sounds at that time, if the host said very calmly that our show is over and bye, he would think that everything I heard was me and I might have heard it wrong. I think this was the best way I could protect him at that time , so I solved the problem very kindly. It’s not in our professional sense. What you said to her about embarrassment or not are two different issues. In news interviews , sometimes it is necessary It’s difficult for the other party not to tell you the truth because this reporter is representing the questioning, right? So I always tell them that you reporters are the opposite of our chat show hosts. Reporters rack their brains to ask you things you don’t want to say. But I say that when you come to chat, I always ask the guests if there is anything they don’t want to mention. I always stay away from the things they don’t want to mention because I believe that people force you and set you up to say things they don’t want to say, and then they regret it after saying it. Yes, it has ratings, but it allows people to speak freely and say whatever they like. I think it’s just as exciting. Of course, your talk show can do that , but there is no time for interviews. I’ve seen a lot of news interviews when there were TV in the past. Some of them were taken by the reporter and said that the person spoke a lot of official language. She made the reporter angry because he couldn’t use that official language. He asked, “Do you talk like this at home? ” The woman being interviewed said, ” I talk like this at home.” Then the person left. This was broadcast. It was broadcasted. The whole news was broadcasted. It was such a good news. The official language made the reporter anxious. He said, “Do you talk like this at home? Are you making me angry?” The official language was very mature . So I think everyone takes a defensive attitude to protect themselves in public . So the words are vague. Few people come up and talk about a problem in indignation. He is really indignant. Sometimes he says a little too much . So over time, it has become a habit for everyone. In recent years, because there are too many mobile phones , everyone has gradually become accustomed to this video. In the past, when you were reporters, everyone had a big machine carrying many people, and they sweated on the spot. At that time, no one had ever experienced this. And there is a very subtle thing. I think it has something to do with culture . You see, sometimes I feel that sometimes because they don’t understand our profession as hosts, I think sometimes the hosts The evaluation of people is unfair. For example, in Chinese culture there is a subconscious concept of respect and inferiority. For example, in Western culture , they may have been accustomed to reporters or hosts. We call it equality. In fact, sometimes they look very powerful. But they may be accustomed to debates since childhood. They always stick out their necks when they speak . But if I meet a respectable guest, I stick my neck out. But I think this is an instinct . I can sensitively feel that some of our people also have this psychological weakness . If you, the host, are too strong, they will be suppressed and will not perform well. Instinctively, I will adopt a humble attitude. If humility can make him confident and open up, I sometimes think this has a lot to do with culture . I remember once I went to Australia or something and was on a big iron bridge. We walked together on the Australian iron bridge to shoot. Look, we are everywhere. Why did you walk on the iron bridge in Australia ? And where did you swim? In a hotel in Africa. We were all working. Right? Why weren’t they coincidences? We were both working. We can’t even say that we were in Africa. I also have Alice. We’ll talk about it later. We are not Edison , not Alice . Alice is a very respectable black lady. We also had a story. The other day, Professor Bi Feiyu told me that we were participating in an event and he said , “Let me tell you , if you ask a question to a writer , nine out of ten times he will deny it first, saying no, but then all his statements will agree with what you just said. Remember this point . But for others, for example, public figures in other sectors, they will instinctively say yes, but seven out of ten times he will deny what you said. I thought about it and it makes sense. What you said made me think of something very interesting. You found that many people without Ma Ye have a catchphrase , which is “no”. Right, isn’t it true that many people may say “no” when chatting ? In fact, what he says next is no different from what you say. It’s just that it’s so contrary to what you say . Do you know if he is trying to find a sense of existence or is he a nitpicker? You mean he is not necessarily a nitpicker. Sometimes I am also like this . No , it’s like saying an interjection. It’s simply very instinctive, which is “no”. You see, especially when you are with Kanye West in Beijing, you will find that he is not like that in his bones. I think he wants to fight for the right to speak, and his way of fighting for the right to speak is “wrong” . Do you think there is such a phenomenon? One of the biggest benefits of speaking against him is that you can continue to extend the topic. Let me give you an example. This program has been “dead” for many years. It can be said that when doing the program, the host told me that They asked me to help them record a program. At that time, most people knew nothing about this cultural relic, so they called me over. The scenery was already set up and there was a big scene. Finally, the host said, “Let’s start.” I sat down and said, ” We know that pastel was first fired during the Yongzheng period. ” I said, “No, it was Kangxi.” I said , “It doesn’t matter. Let’s start over .” Okay, let’s start over. We know that pastel was first fired during the Kangxi period. I said, “It was the late Kangxi period .” He stopped and asked, “Why is it the late Kangxi period?” I said, “Yes, it was the late Kangxi period.” They said, “Okay, let’s start over.” We know that pastel was first fired during the late Kangxi period . I said, “Yes.” Then she asked, “Why are you talking like that?” I said, ” I can’t talk anymore. You have to stop and re-record no matter what I say. I said, “You said Yongzheng, I said Kangxi, ” and you immediately asked me why it was Kangxi, right? Or you said Kangxi, I said the late Kangxi period, why did it only appear in the late Kangxi period? What a good topic, a real conversation. You put all the knowledge points as a host. I said to the host, “I’m telling you that not understanding your profession is your strength, and understanding is your weakness. It’s useless to pretend to understand. I write a bunch of scripts for you, and you memorize all these points, but you don’t understand them. You just know at that moment what this means to you. The advantage is that Mr. Ma, on this point, I want many hosts to memorize this knowledge first. This principle is profound and very important . In fact, we can all understand this because when it comes to a wider audience, they will not accept it and will think that as a host, you have not done your basic homework. They will think that this is a basic information point , whether it is Kangxi, the late Kangxi period , or Yongzheng period . In fact, at different stages of your career, your mentality will be different. When we were younger, we would pretend to know , but now we pretend not to know. Sometimes , as a host, you sometimes ask questions for the audience , that is, they must be interested and have some questions. If it is a dialogue between two experts, you are ignoring the audience . You say that it is too advanced and we cannot understand it , so one side has to pretend to be stupid. But you cannot invite an expert and ask the expert to pretend to be stupid and pretend to understand. This has become a crosstalk, yes. But I think this is also related to the people who watch this show. The psychology of everyone today is very interesting. For example, if you praise one, you must step on another so that I can understand and the words will be more powerful, right? Just like a mother’s words, you see. It’s Ge Hui, right? He wants to express praise for someone, so he has to accompany it with his criticism of that person. You know, I found that many times the host plays this role and says, “Look how well Ren Ma Ye speaks. This host is stupid. This host asks this question, right?” When I see this, I remember what my elementary school teacher said, ” There are no stupid questions in the world, only stupid answers, right ?” But now, you know , it’s like what you said, many hosts who have just entered the industry are afraid of being asked, “How can you be so stupid that you don’t even know this and you even ask this, right? ” So they develop an anxiety about self-performance , right? When I was doing the “Celebrity Face to Face” interview just now, for example, when I interviewed a scientist, I was also afraid. I was especially afraid that I didn’t understand, so I would look at a lot of information. Then, how did you look at it? I really picked it up, so I was under a lot of pressure. I picked up the professional terms and then, after saying that, the scientist must be really good. You know so much. I feel at ease. I have a feeling that you know so much, but in fact, you forget it as soon as you put it down. But it’s not easy for you to take the exam, right? This host is good and knows a lot . It ‘s really the anxiety he said at that time. I am afraid that I will feel shallow and have not done my homework. I am afraid that I will definitely go through this stage. The first interview trick our teacher taught in the journalism class is that as a young interviewer, for example, if you go to interview Teacher Ma, how can you make him take notice of you? Otherwise, he will think that you are a child and ask me a question. In your question, you list a lot of background knowledge about him. This background knowledge has nothing to do with the question . He will say, for example, Teacher Ma, I know what school you went to, where you worked in the queue, and later in Beijing. He will list everything and finally just ask you how you are doing today to highlight that you see, I know you very well and you should pay enough attention to my questions. I have used this trick, so what is the current trend? It works . Many times, people in our industry , including some reporters , regard asking questions as an opportunity to perform. A press conference is really not a ceremonial occasion. We dress like we are going to sing bel canto , right? So in the end, the act of interviewing and being interviewed becomes a performance . He has been like this since he was a child because I have been to an elementary school that has a podium. He asked me to talk about this education issue . After I finished speaking, the principal asked, “Teacher Ma, can you condescend to do us a favor? We have a group of young reporters who want to interview you.” I said, “Sure.” Then I went to the lounge, and three elementary school students wearing red scarves came in. The first girl rushed up and asked a lot of questions. Because I was not mentally prepared at the time , the little girl saluted and asked , “Teacher Ma, how did you get on the road of collecting ?” It was a big and vague question. Then I thought, why would a child with such a young age ask such a big and vague question? So I said, “I got on the road of collecting with my feet. ” Well said. Then you pretended to speak like an adult and I pretended to speak like a child. The child’s logic is like that. The girl who got on the road of collecting with her feet probably thought I was teasing her. The girl burst into tears, which made me panic, you know? I said that’s not what I meant. Then I told her that when my son was young, I taught him the Chinese zodiac , and he was interested in it. Then he went to the neighbor’s house and asked, “Uncle Wang, what’s your zodiac sign? ” Uncle Wang asked, “What’s your father’s zodiac sign? ” Uncle Wang said, “My father was a sheep.” Uncle Wang asked , “What’s under the sheep?” My son said, “The legs are under the sheep . ” Human logic is correct, and there is nothing wrong with it. The monkey is under the sheep. It is determined by us, right? So this is called child’s thinking. The child’s thinking has Zen. In fact, sometimes art and inspiration can be generated from it . This is a kind of observation. We adults no longer observe problems in this way. In fact, it refers to things that are really within our reach. For the most honest people, there is hair on top. Do you adults think so? But children are so simple, so children’s words are sometimes philosophical and sometimes poetic. I remember when I was a child , I asked my daughter to hold the coffee for me, right? Doesn’t coffee have a holder? When she returned it to me, she said, “Mom, give it to me.” Your coffee skirt is the little paper tray. Mom gives you a coffee skirt poem. That’s right. I took her skiing. She was so short, so I held her and put her chin on the windowsill. Then I looked out the window and saw that the thick snow covered the roof. She said, “Mom, the house is hibernating, ” right? It was a four-year-old child. Her language was actually constantly corrected by adult culture during its formation. It itself is very real. It is said that the legs are underneath a sheep , and the hair is above a person. But I think you just said that the child suddenly cried. I envied her state. She collapsed, and I collapsed more than she did. I wanted to shed tears at the time and confronted her. I hurt the child, but I think you see the instinctive truth of the child. As adults, we have to suppress this real reaction. That is, you may have Just cover up, for example, if I were a child , I might be very embarrassed or at a loss. You want to cry, but you dare not shed tears. You can only return to the instinct of a child. I am also hurt at this moment, so I will cry. We no longer have this ability. I tell you that there is another question, because I asked questions from this child, and I said that you are all very good hosts and have interviewed countless people. It is difficult to ask people. Do you think it is not easy to ask others how old they are, where they are from, and what they do? These are all very long-winded, because sometimes when I give some speeches, the questions asked are basically big and empty questions . For example, if you ask me where Chinese cultural relics will go , where will they love to go, right? That is, when most of us ask questions in public, the questions we ask are not our own questions, but a high point of our imagination, starting from that place to ask a question, so I will go now. I am actually willing to answer these questions , but every time after a speech, I always ask this question because people at that time have a kind of performing personality. They will think that at this moment, I am not asking the question that I am most interested in, but asking a question that others will think is very cool and not shameful . Yes
, you once simply said that it is not enough for you to give full play to and it is meaningless. You once asked, what do you think is a particularly interesting question that can not stump Ma Ye? I don’t have any . I remember that there was a person who was very funny. At that time, after I gave a speech in Wuxi, the first woman stood up and said, “Teacher Ma, my son’s surname is also Ma.” Then I was stunned and said, “What does this have to do with me?” If it does, you should say that your husband’s surname is Ma. Then your son’s surname is Ma. Ma Ye might hear it and then I said, “I said this matter has nothing to do with me, right?” The audience burst into laughter and Ma Ye panicked. Anyway, the opening of this question is quite good . That’s it. Use this as the opening. There are all kinds of There are all kinds of jokes. I don’t remember the questions I was waiting to ask . I just really think that asking questions is a basic skill. In our daily life, I always say that when you interact with strangers , you should not ask more than three questions. After three question marks , people will no longer want to pay attention to you. You have to ask the first question mark and then change the subject. At most, you have to ask the second question mark, right? For example, Wentao, where are you from? You said I am from Shijiazhuang, Hebei, I have been to Shijiazhuang, there is a place next to that place, there is a temple or something like that , you can change the subject. Where are you from Shijiazhuang? Where did you study ? Where did you go after studying ? After a while, people will not want to pay attention to you, right? You must not ask more than three questions . This is a general communication skill. This can be learned . When he asks a question, at most, you have to ask the second question mark and tell him what you know within his topic, right? Where did you study? You said Wuhan University, right? I have been to Wuhan University . Your cherry blossoms are very beautiful and you can talk about anything . You said that this Ma Ye has rich life experience. Without him, he has all kinds of tricks. You know, I have thought about many of these tricks. When I was a child, I practiced public speaking. These were the same tricks. I just thought about them blindly and finally I got tired of it . I also found that I am not that kind of person. I think I don’t know how to do any interviews or ask questions. In the end, I think I finally seem to understand a little bit. It’s what you said, to be honest. I am actually just me. I am very curious about them , but this curiosity is real. Maybe the questions I ask are also mixed. So, for example, if I meet a Master Ma now, I don’t know how to modify my questions, but I just know that I have a heart full of love. Master Ma, you have too many stories in your life, right? Tell us a story about your love. Maybe I ask questions like a director . I am very direct. The purpose is to be straightforward . I really want to hear what you say. And what I say is consistent from heart to mouth. It’s true. Others like me are often misunderstood. They always say that I am beating around the bush and setting traps for others. I’m not like that. I don’t know how to understand it that well. When we chat, you see you say this and I think of this. I say this is really interesting. Tell me about this. I won’t even ask a question mark . There is no language. It’s just that the heart is direct and the intention is directly output. That kind of feeling , but if you are in daily life In life, even if you are full of infinite curiosity about that person , the state of being a host is very tiring. I really don’t have that. What he wants to say is that we don’t need state , skills , or methods , right? But my state is that I am curious , so I just want to know. I tell them about eloquence or what I say. I don’t quite understand these things because I think even if it is a stupid person, if you love him, I think you will express it. No matter you express it stupidly or in any other way, some people even like to express it with body language , that is, they can feel your heart. So I think only feelings are real. If you are a friend and you like him , then what skills are there? You just need to be with him based on your heart. That’s because you already have skills when expressing yourself. So you said that there is only emotion, right? Another problem you mentioned is that you have to be familiar with him. It is difficult for you as a stranger . In our lives, there are only three levels of relationships: relatives, acquaintances, and strangers. We are considered acquaintances. If the four of us are sitting here today and we don’t know each other , then today is an awkward chat . It depends on whether we have the ability to start it. It depends on whether you can find a common topic. This is difficult. Do you have this ability ? How did you develop this? If the other person is good-looking , he or she will be more willing to talk more. So you can see that I understand it best. One year, I told you a story. One year , that was two years ago. An old friend asked me that I hadn’t seen him or her for a long time and asked me to have dinner at his home. I said okay. When I went there that day, the four of us hadn’t gotten together for many years. That day, we were talking at the table. The four of us chatted. There were many other people in the room . Many of the female guests were willing to have dinner with us. It was so interesting to sit at that table , but when the four of us got together , nothing could be said. Right, the four of us were chatting and we didn’t want to have more people. Then a woman came and said that because she didn’t know me and she wasn’t familiar with me , she couldn’t say I was familiar with (an old friend), so (said), “Don’t always sit at your table, come to our table. ” (An old friend) said that he couldn’t say, “I won’t go. ” He said, “You go back first , I’ll go later.” But we were still talking here for a while, and the woman left. After she left, what (an old friend) said was exactly what I thought. He said that if there is no purpose , then there is nothing to talk about . Do you understand? I said that you can move the topic forward at a table with a purpose. This purpose is why I told you that every time Master Ma comes, I mainly think about this issue . How can the purpose satisfy Master Ma’s purpose ? What is the purpose? For example, in the past, you didn’t know the other party’s industry, and you would get some valuable information during the communication. Today, we are in an era of information explosion. You hold your mobile phone every day. How many junk messages do you see every day? You don’t think information is valuable. When we were young, we would be happy for several days after chatting in a bureau, and we could know a lot of things. Today, all the things you chat about cannot exceed the information your mobile phone gives you, right? Especially like it’s smart. You care about something , you have read it once, and it pushes it to you until you get tired of it, right? But it was not that time . You don’t have this feeling now. So, often, at least the people who can chat better have at least information advantages . In the past , no matter if he made it up or something else, right? Anyway, at least there was nonsense , which was okay. There are too many nonsense, you think You have made up stories. A lot of the information in the video you watched today is also made up. It is not true. But there is another thing, which is people’s reaction . So I think that many times, the success or failure of people and many things depends on what others say. Or let’s not just talk about it. When you encounter something, your reaction will show the truth. And you can see a lot from this reaction. You see, I heard someone, Li Ao, say one, which is also true. It talks about Margaret Thatcher. She said that once she was having dinner with those high-ranking officials of the State Council , and then a waitress came up to pour you coffee or serve you food. Suddenly, a gentleman in a formal suit accidentally spilled it on the ground. Margaret Thatcher, what do you think would happen if it was you? Most people would wipe it off quickly, right? But Margaret Thatcher’s reaction was to rush over and hug the waitress without hesitation and say, “I know you didn’t mean it.” This part shows that she knew that the most embarrassed person at this time was not the gentleman, the most embarrassed person was the waitress , and the most afraid person was her. She was the first to need it. I want to comfort you. I think this reaction is really too gentlemanly. If it were you, I would have had this experience. It would not be like this. Is it true? Let me tell you. The China Red Wine Association established an open-air wine party with 300 people. There was a long table with a white tablecloth spread to the end. There were 300 people. Their boss invited me to go. I sat as the guest of honor . There were 100 people at this long table . He sat at the head. I sat on his left hand. I was the first person. I came up and told him that the quality of your service team today was poor. He said, “How do you know ?” I said, “You’ll know in a while .” As a result, it was summer and I was on the grass. I was wearing a linen white shirt. The first bottle of red wine that came up was theoretically the one who should have served me well should give the guest of honor first and then the host. He gave the host one glass first, and then he hit the back of my neck with that glass. He twisted his hand and banged the whole glass on the back of my neck. Who told you to say that the service quality was poor? I said, “You’ll know in a while .” Then, so thoughts are matter. The law of attraction of thoughts is true. Then I still have nothing to do with Mrs. Thatcher’s hug. She didn’t have anyone . The girl ran away, and the boy ran away . This reaction , this reaction also surprised me a little. He I ran away and said I didn’t want to do this job anymore. It was too embarrassing. Then a girl came over and I said, because I know it’s useless to get angry, I won’t get angry. I asked, where is your leader? She looked at me and said that our leader didn’t come today . She might think that their big boss didn’t come and wanted to complain. I said that’s not what I meant. Who is leading the team today ? She said that no one is leading the team today. Then this matter forced me to reason with her. I said, come here and I’ll reason with you. I said, I’m getting up and leaving now. The organizer won’t settle the bill with you . This is for sure, right? What kind of service is this? I said, the first thing you should do is apologize to me, and the matter will be over. The girl was still a little stunned. Why? It wasn’t her who charged me, so why did she apologize to me? She wouldn’t deal with it. If she wanted to deal with it, she would say I’ll apologize to you on his behalf and that’s it. Then I couldn’t leave. How embarrassing it was , so I just endured it. It was open to the sky and the wind blew in a while, and it dried in a while. It’s linen, right? There’s a rose behind it. Later , people came. That day, everyone asked me, ” Are you wearing clothes so fashionable now? And why is there pink behind the flower?” Tie-dye becomes tie-dye, and the back is pink. The Jun kiln tie-dye has a bit of the Jun kiln effect , right? I have so many things like this that I can write a book. Let me tell you, you are always giving people the back of the neck, right? The most embarrassing thing is, let me tell you, Mr. Ma, your physique is also interesting. When the 2008 Olympics opened, you know that you are familiar with the Workers’ Stadium, and there were a lot of high-end restaurants around the Workers’ Stadium, right? They were all restaurants invested by outsiders. Those restaurants were all made by outsiders with huge sums of money at that time. They opened those luxury restaurants. None of them were appropriate. There was a restaurant. As soon as I entered, I said, this is a restaurant designed by an outsider. Do you know why that restaurant is designed by an outsider? He designed a lot of waterways in the whole restaurant like a maze . Restaurants are not allowed because someone drank and fell into it. As a result, its waterways are so wide , and they are all flowing in various ways, but it is designed like a maze. The water takes a shortcut. It does not go back and forth as you imagine. It goes to the nearest place and it will form stagnant water. Because the restaurant is very oily, a film will form if it is not moved for two or three days. The water cannot be seen clearly and it does not reflect light, right ? Then There is a water channel next to the wall because it doesn’t reflect light and you’re afraid of falling into it. Maybe someone has fallen into it before. So they put a table on top of it and put two sofas. As a result, there is such a big gap between the sofa and the table. This gap is enough for me to fall in. How did I fall in ? Do you know how I fell in? At that time, I was particularly fond of decoration and all kinds of things. I said that the room was quite high, about three meters and five hundred meters. The person asked how you knew it was three meters and five hundred meters. I said I had a trick. I went over and stretched out my hand. It was two meters and two hundred meters. You see, I still had space above me. How much is it ? Just estimate it with your eyes. Isn’t that what I said? At this time, I had to walk to the wall. When I got there, I lowered my hand by two meters before I stretched it out. The water must have been 40 centimeters deep. Then I stepped to the bottom. You know, I was wearing leather shoes. The key is whether my ankle was sprained or not. I said, don’t panic, everyone. I came out . Today we will get a free meal . I said so first. We sat down to eat. After the meal, the only thing left was the bill. Because I said that the bill would be waived. Such a big accident should have been waived. It’s your design, right? I When I came, the waiter said, “Look, you all saw me fall into the water just now .” I said, ” Let’s get a free bill today.” Immediately, a man came out and said to me, “Mr. Ma, I have served you before.” He said, “After careful consideration, we will give you a 10% discount today. It ‘s too stingy.” Then I said, “You misunderstood me. I am not bargaining with you. I want a free bill today. I said there should be a punishment for your mistake. Oh , I forgot to tell you a detail. Why did I want a free bill at that time? It was because when I fell, a female waitress rushed up and asked, ” Who told you to go there? ” She said this and it scared me. This is a bit like the old saying of our store, “We will not beat or scold customers,” right? She said to me, “Let me get a free bill. ” Then, after a while, they went in to discuss. At that time, there were not many people in the restaurant. He went in to discuss and another person came out . That person seemed to be from Singapore because he talked a lot. Managers at that time were all hired with high salaries. He talked to me for a long time and gave me a 20% discount. Then I said, “This is it.” I said, “Now we have entered a misunderstanding. We are bargaining. I said, ” I’m going to pay you the full amount now , but you have to write down the process for me. He said, “The guest fell into the water, ” and he said, “That’s not okay. ” Then I said, “Did I fall into the water? I was wearing wet shoes and eating a meal . You thought it was delicious, but I wanted to leave halfway through the meal because I treated him and I couldn’t leave, right?” Then I said, “That’s it. ” I’ll give you the money now, and you write me a bill. The guest fell into the water, and he refused to write it for me. He said, “If he doesn’t write it, I wo n’t pay.” If I don’t pay, I want you to call the police as soon as you go out . After calling the police, the police will write it because the police asked, “Why did you call the police? He fell into the water and didn’t pay.” At this time, I will give you the money. There was a witness, and that person looked at it for a long time and went back to discuss it. After a while, he came out and said, “Teacher Ma, we have decided to waive the bill today.” The bill was waived. Look at this. Do you know how much I lost on that meal? That meal didn’t cost much . It was like, “How many brain cells did you die for this waiver? ” With this guy’s thoughts, I thought that in the end, the waiter would come out and say, ” Teacher Ma, I served you before. I poured you a glass of wine, but I ran away .” It turned into a battle of wits and courage, right? But I think this kind of thing is for their own good. You know, the kind of trough where the water flows is so deep. It’s possible to break someone’s leg. If you drink too much, the owner of that XX restaurant is my childhood friend. No wonder, you see, you go and ask him. When he’s fine, he just scratches the word XX on the air, and it beeps twice and that’s it. I hope he sees it , I hope he hears his friend being so stingy, can she be generous? It’s not that you don’t understand, because I pay special attention to the decoration of all restaurants, and I’m also very familiar with many restaurant owners. I went in and told him that something might happen there, but he didn’t believe it. It turns out that I know a boss who runs a French restaurant with a pool in it. The water in the pool is not very deep. I said that the pool is so old that people can fall into it. He said how is it possible? I said, wait and see , when I go there again in half a year, he won’t put water in the pool, and put a band in the pool. The orchestra pool is old and people can fall into it because it’s old because the stairs go down and turn a corner to the pool . People who drink can’t see it, you know, it’s not your home. Sometimes it’s related to public safety . Isn’t it common for people to fall from the third floor when they open the door to go to the toilet? No, it ‘s not often, just occasionally. But this looks like the service industry , because it deals with people, it’s really You should go through some training on how to respond. You see, I am a person who is very good-tempered and tolerant when eating in a restaurant. But one time, I lost my temper in a bakery. Let me tell you how good-tempered I am when eating in a restaurant. One time, there was a small meat worm crawling in a plate of cold dishes. Then I thought I should not embarrass others, so I quietly called the waitress over. In fact, the waitress of the small shop was the boss’s wife. I said, “I’m a little scared about this dish. Can you please take it away for me ? ” She took one look and said, “I ‘m really sorry. ” I said, “It’s okay, I’m just a little scared . Can you take it away for me?” I was alone and didn’t say anything. But why did I lose my temper in that bakery ? It was the saleswoman who responded to the situation . I was clearly standing at the back of the line and saw a fly biting the bread. As a result, I was staring at the bread. When it came to my turn, I said, ” Please take the bread away.” A fly flew on it. The lady said , “Oh, that’s red bean .” I got angry. At that time, I thought she must think she is very smart and responds very well. Her response is also called response. I said to her, “That’s red beans. Are they still there?” Then I asked, “Can your red beans fly? Have they grown wings?” Then I really couldn’t hold her back. There were people queuing behind me, so I said to them in front of them, ” Have you received any training on how to respond to emergencies?” Yes , host, that’s right. Then you must take the bread down for me. This is really true. What’s the benefit of this kind of response ? Now, books are purchased online. It’s just a platform for buying books . In the end, I bought a set of “The Complete Works of Luo Niansheng”. But in the end , they only sent me one book. But when you unpacked it, you didn’t think about it and just threw it away. In the end, you found out (there was only one book) . They said, “You have to bring the original packaging so that we can know if it was sent to you. ” I said, “I threw away the packaging, but you really didn’t send it to me.” In the end, they said, ” You have no evidence to prove that we didn’t send it to you because you opened the packaging.” I found that there was really nothing we could do about it, right? According to their regulations, I have no evidence to prove that they didn’t send me this whole box of books. This is worse than a vegetable selling website. If you say the vegetables are not good, they will immediately refund your money. So this is a posture problem, I think it is an attitude problem , but in the end I got angry. You said that people like us are the most angry. You said what can you do? Pinch your thigh. No, in the end it’s not the problem, it’s the people , you know, you can only complain to him through the online message, and you don’t even know if he is a robot or a person when he replies, you know, in the end I found that my anger reached the extreme, that is, you must remember , you must always remember that you did not send me this box of books, you will pay the price for this behavior sooner or later , and you paid the price today , finally you let this matter vent your anger . In fact, many times we look at a person by looking at his reaction. Sometimes I think many people really regret it, and many missed a chance. For example, I particularly like two lines of Li Shangyin’s poem called This feeling can be waited to be recalled, but it was already at a loss at that time . Aren’t they all the same? Let’s say you break up or not, you may not actually want to break up, but at that moment you said break up for some reason. But I remember you told me that it was like when the three of us were having dinner, you said something. You said this person, your heart actually dominates all your actions You said I didn’t want to go there, but my feet had already taken me there. Your original words were that your feet had already taken you there. My original words were that your calves cramped as you walked forward. Have you ever experienced that kind of head that knows you can never cramp in your calves, but your legs have already gone, so you went. You haven’t had such a struggle. No , I may be more rational. I should make a certain reaction in a certain situation, but I didn’t make it, and then I will regret it for the rest of my life . I think it is all kinds of small regrets that make up a life that may be a big regret, but there is no one . I think Teacher Ma would not have such a decisive one . It shows that I am too bad. That is the so-called regret for a lifetime. We haven’t lived our whole life , so don’t regret it for the rest of our lives. Regret for half of your life . The things you regret are actually things from your youth . When you were young, you might have sat together again after decades and talked about the incident back then. In fact, it was just a little bit short. At that time, if one of the two had the courage to say that, the matter would be resolved. Are you referring to the missed opportunity in terms of emotions ? Emotions are the most mainstream emotions and are very important. Yes, it can also be said that it is because most people have this problem , but I have a… I may be more fatalistic. I think it has What has happened is that the only thing that will happen is what you think, right? What you think is what you want, and no matter how you react at that time, you will regret it in the end. There is no wrong choice. It’s not that you chose this way at that time. What you wanted at that time would be like this. If you made the opposite choice at that time, we would still be here to have such a conversation. You said, “Oh, I don’t think Ge Hui will have such confusion. Everything is the best arrangement. This is you. This is too positive. Isn’t it Ge Hui’s personality ? I think she has always been certain. No, she is a person who will never waste her energy. She is a person who will never waste her energy. She is also very emotionally stable. Yes , I am, don’t you think you are simple-minded? I am. I am really straightforward. It’s true that the two of them, Mr. Ma, have a perfect match in their personalities. I think the classic is that at the airport, the plane is about to take off. Are you or are you eating? Then the person will be very anxious and ask, ” Do you want to eat anything else?” The plane is about to fly. I am almost crazy. At that time, I was wondering who these two were. Why can’t I remember that there is such a thing . It’s true that the plane has already left the cabin. She remembers everything about the two of us, including us , including what we have forgotten. You said, just as you remember everything about the two of us. Sometimes, people laugh to death. Teacher Ma, you see , after many years, there are still some regrets between the three of us, right? It’s true. Teacher Ma, I think the feelings just now can be turned into memories , but it was already gone at that time . Teacher Ma just looked at you all calmly. You are still worried about the little thoughts in your heart until now. It’s really hard to let go. You see, you are still brooding about it. It’s us, Chang’e, who should regret stealing the elixir for the three of us. The blue sea and blue sky, every night, is the best answer to Wentao’s question just now. Which question is about what you have missed in your life. Although we don’t know what we have missed , we have been asking ourselves all our lives what we have missed. I never ask myself. I have stopped wasting time. I missed it. I found a photo for them that day. What is it about? It is the photo that Ge Hui and I took in Tibet that year. It’s not mainly because I have seen this photo a long time ago, but later they said it was pretty good. The title of this photo is ” Why wasn’t it like this at that time ?” The three of us, this little boy should have been Yes, it was really more than 30 years old. This was when we were young, and there were three of us . This was the highlight of my life. Look at your hairstyle. It hasn’t changed much. In fact, I , Ma , was stunned. It’s not you, Ma, it’s not me. I was thinking about myself. I have a lot of photos. There are so many photos that I felt very emotional after seeing them . We are now fortunate that our generation has a very rich image data. But now the young people below have even richer data . They wish they had all the images when they were born . But you know, the other day I watched a talk show that was very funny. It talked about photos and said, ” Look, people in the past took photos. Look, this is us in Tibet. This is us after Hong Kong’s return. You looked at me lovingly and said, “People in the future take out photos. Look, this is a photo of grandma back then. This is the breakfast that grandma had. This is grandma riding an airplane. The wings of the airplane. The other 20 are all airplane wings . Right, all 10,000 photos are selfies, right? That means there are no more. Without them , how many GB of my 100,000 photos are there? Do you know? I can’t find any photo I want, which is equivalent to invalid. Do you understand? You see, we have these photos forever . Don’t we take them out every year to look at them and can’t find them? I don’t know if you have this feeling, but I often belong to that kind of person. Forgetting my own age is me. I am also me. When did I realize that I should not be a parent but a grandmother? I saw, for example, how my own child grew up in an instant. The memory of her babyish voice and furry hair seemed like yesterday, right? Now she is suddenly in college. Then I was thinking that I was very confused in this process. Maybe the only thing I can think of now, the only thing I have done that makes me feel right and proud is that when my daughter was a child , there was a time when she was bullied. You can call it school bullying or whatever . I supported her when she was a shy girl. Later, she had the courage to fight. How did you support her? It was actually a child’s story. She was in the first or second grade at that time . I don’t remember it very clearly. Then she came home in a very bad mood for a few days and was very irritable. After asking around, I finally found out that she was beaten by her classmates. During the break , a boy not only pushed her to the ground , but also stepped on her stomach . A mother with a daughter would feel furious and heartbroken when hearing this. Later, I said no. Later, she said Mom, let’s not tell the teacher . Don’t do that. I’m afraid he will hit me again. Then I thought, how could this happen? How could this happen? I said no, I said mom must help you solve this problem . I said first, don’t worry . I said mom will go find the teacher and mom will ask the teacher to find the classmate’s parents. I said second, don’t be afraid that the boy will hit you again . I said don’t worry, if the boy dares to touch you again, I said mom will go to school. I said I will put on a pair of boxing gloves and pull the boy out in front of your teachers and classmates. I said mom will beat him . I said let him have a taste of the iron fist . Right? What does it feel like to bully the weak? Because they were young at that time, right? She said, “Mom, you are the host, you can’t do this. ” I said, “Mom, I promise you that I will do this . ” I said, “If his teacher doesn’t deal with it and his parents don’t let him admit his mistake, the good teacher is also very responsible and brought the boy’s parents over. But I always have doubts. I said, “Really? How could that boy be so cruel? ” Later, after communication and coordination between the two sides, I realized that the boy is actually a good kid , but he is the type who may not be very good at expressing himself , and sometimes after being criticized, he will have violent emotions and he doesn’t know what to do. He is rebellious and doesn’t know how to vent , so he might have had a quarrel with my daughter during break , and then he couldn’t control himself and really hit her. After that, I told his parents and they also apologized to me profusely. Later I said , I just hope you can let the child apologize, but that parent had already done the work on the child. The child did come to apologize and gave my daughter a doll , a very cute and silly doll, and really apologized. His parents were also very friendly. He said, “Promise Ding Ruxu that I will protect you and will never hit you again.” Under such circumstances, we quickly encouraged the two children, and then I gave him a book called ” Education of Love”. I felt that I had to admit that he was essentially a good child , and I should encourage him in a positive way. From then on, the two of them became good buddies. He is really the kind of child who always asks, ” Did someone hit you?” I was that kind of person. Their friendship lasted until they went to their own schools and continued until high school. Not only that , I think that when you support a daughter and give her the courage to say “no” to school bullying , my daughter ‘s experience was a bit turbulent , so she had to constantly deal with such changes . She changed schools six or seven times. In fact, this is not good or bad for children. There are many negative aspects for her because every time she enters a new environment, she has to adapt. She has to overcome loneliness and cowardice because there will be cold violence and even some bullying . But she later became very brave. When she was studying abroad in college, a boy verbally insulted girls on that website. She dared to go to the website and ask the school to expel the boy. Isn’t this similar to Lu Yu? I said to her that the boy might retaliate against her, and she said, “Mom, I’m not afraid. ” She went from being a girl who was bullied. She became a fighter. She dared. Later, she studied art and did a lot of works on how to help girls speak out. You see, the key is how to deal with it . I was talking about the response. Suddenly, I remembered an unrelated story that left a deep impression on me. It was about the extreme reaction of this person. You must know that it was Wu Qi , the famous general during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period . Wu Qi told the princes that he had fought seventy-six battles and won seventy-six of them, and sixty-four of them were victorious. He was such a powerful general who was well versed in the art of war and later followed King Dao of Chu . He wanted to reform, but reforming would offend the old nobles. When King Mourning of Chu died, he went back to attend the funeral. At that time, in the court , these old nobles took out arrows and shot Wu Qi to death . When Wu Qi saw the nobles pointing their bows and arrows at him, he said, “Let you see my military tactics.” He must be dead, right? But he said, “Let you see my military tactics. ” He pounced on the corpse of King Mourning of Chu. These nobles shot him to death. The arrow also shot the corpse of the King of Chu. There was a law in the State of Chu called ” Li Bing Yu Wang Shi Zhe,” which meant that if you use weapons on the corpse of the king , you can exterminate three clans. So you think his (reaction) at the last moment is his military strategy, which is: I am already dead, but before I die, all of you who want to kill me will be (annihilated) along with your entire clan. I’m talking about this extreme and this reaction. Let me tell you a more extreme example of a lower-class person. You are an upper-class person, right? In my new book, “Back Figure”, the second volume is out. I will give it to you when the time comes. It will be very popular. I deliberately wrote about a certain group of people in it . I plan to write about 100 people. These 100 people make up the 100-year history of China. Everyone is a part of this history. I have people from the upper, middle and lower classes of society. I specifically wrote about a person without a name in the second volume. At that time, we called him Zhang the Ragman. Now there is a classical Chinese word called “Scavenger”. In the past, it was said that this person who picked up rags was very interesting . A street drunk took me there. At that time, when I entered the shantytown in the south of Beijing, it was very hot in the summer. The whole alley was very smelly because it was full of people picking up rags and sorting them. He was more intelligent. When he was picking up rags, he would find that some things were different from others, so he would sell them . At that time, it was the 1980s. At that time, I was in my twenties. For example, if he saw that the plate was different, he would ask for it from others. He might buy it for three yuan and sell it for five yuan. He didn’t know what it was . I asked him . He was already in his sixties and was called Uncle Zhang. He said, “Uncle, do you understand this?” He said, “I don’t need to understand. The buyer will definitely understand. I have the money to manage it, right? I buy it for five yuan , and I can sell it for ten yuan or fifteen yuan. If I’m in a hurry, I can sell it for six yuan, right? Anyway, I have the money to manage this old man because he has a business mind. The rag picker also has a business mind. He is in that alley. All the rag pickers are from Hebei. We are from the same hometown. He has become a The bigger households would have people like us. Although we were not well dressed , we were obviously not from that alley. We went in and out to buy his things. The first one I saw was a yellow pot with a short spout from Shouzhou Kiln in the Tang Dynasty , which could only be seen in museums at that time. He sold it to me for 15 yuan. I didn’t know how much it was anyway. He sold it to me for 15 yuan and I was not allowed to bargain. So I bought it. Later, he became jealous and people around him reported him . At that time, there was no Cultural Relics Protection Law, so people were asked to report him. He didn’t have anything substantial, so the police kept scolding him. As a result, one morning … When the police came, they took him away and didn’t talk to him on the way. The old man felt that the atmosphere was not good today because every time the police had to ask him about this and that, they would scold him and then let him go. As a result, when he entered the police station, the old man took off his belt. He was wearing a cloth belt. He said that he had cold legs and had to wear cotton pants in summer. He said that he wanted to die in the morning but couldn’t find a place to die. Finally, he found a place to die. When he entered the police station, this was also a “Wu Qi”. Listen, you see him tying a belt on the heating pipe. The chief of the police station saw it and said to keep an eye on him. If anything happens to him, whose responsibility will it be? Find a policeman and ask how What happened? He said that someone reported him for trafficking in cultural relics, but there was no evidence. Then they scolded him and said that the old man wanted to die. They said they would keep an eye on him and not let him cause any trouble. Wasn’t it morning now? In the morning, someone gave the director a snack box and a fruit basket. Then the director told him to send the old man home and told the policeman that nothing could happen on the way home. If anything happened, it would be our fault. Hurry up and get him back. This morning, the police took the old man away. Near noon, the old man came back with the snack box and the fruit basket (given by the director). What did the people in the alley think of him? They said he was a bad guy. After arriving home, we had a simple lunch and rested. The afternoon was awesome. We definitely don’t have the broad mind of the old man. After he woke up from his nap in the afternoon, he went around with seven or eight people, about ten people in total. Anyway, he took the snack box with two or three pieces of snacks and a plate with two fruits. He divided the fruit basket and snack box into twelve portions and sent one to each household . I didn’t ask who reported me. If it were us, he would definitely hate who reported me. I would definitely find out who this person was and I would take revenge on him. He didn’t have it and didn’t want to know. In other words, even if he knew, I would give you face. I divided this thing into twelve portions, one for each person. This is called being a good person. What is pattern? I understood that day and what is broad-mindedness . I also understood that day that we can’t do what is called a social elite. This is what a social elite is . What you do is called calling back. But he still has the hurdle in his heart. He has completely resolved the matter in his heart. He doesn’t want to know who it is. It’s because of the different realms. We can’t understand it. On the contrary , it’s impossible for us, educated people. Yes, he must find out who it is. Whoever reported me did the bad thing, right ? It ‘s not that I feel uncomfortable in my heart. I may not be able to find it, but I will always feel uncomfortable because of that hurdle in my heart. He didn’t. After he divided this feeling, I found that the whole situation had changed. What was it? When we entered the alley, all the households looked at us with hostility, you know? Since that day, when I went there again, everyone said, “Here we go again. Look, they are all good people. No one reported this guy either.” There is wisdom in the folks. I gave him a book called “Love, what is it? ” “Education of Love”, signed by social wise men. We can’t think that you live by the level of your education and the level of society you live in . Don’t think that the higher you are, the better you will be at handling problems . Sometimes it may be a small matter , but you will end up with a dead end. He has this way . At that time, I looked at him and said, “Uncle, you are good. You, you are too good. I Let me tell you another amazing story. This is called handling things. In those years, I went to the biggest family at the top, Wang Shixiang’s house, right? The bottom is the shabby Zhang family . All of them have a notice . Wang Shixiang’s family has a notice hanging up. Until now, there is a photo and an old man who said that he received instructions from his superiors and would not allow people to identify cultural relics. This is absolute. Anyone who has been to their house has seen this. This uncle is also OK. He actually has a notice . How did he write it? He could not receive instructions from his superiors. He had no superiors. He wrote that hepatitis was prevalent recently . Delivery people came in the morning and buyers came in the afternoon. I said, what does the prevalence of hepatitis have to do with morning and afternoon ? After thinking for a long time, I understood that he was afraid that the delivery people and buyers would bump into you. The delivery people were isolated and the buyers were sorry that they could not be received . If you want to buy something, don’t come in the morning. If you bump into the delivery people, you will change jobs. You can’t let them wink at each other and go out. Give him the slot in the middle. So I saw such a notice in the old man’s house. At that time, I went to his house. They were old at that time . They were not like now. There was no one there . At that time, I was dragged by people to walk through the streets. People had a lot of things to do. I had never seen notices posted. Except for Wang Shixiang, who received instructions from his superiors, intellectuals and the ragtag Zhang family posted notices. This is really interesting. On the contrary, we, the middle-level people in intelligence, may hesitate all day long, wavering from side to side, not knowing how to choose, and always weighing the pros and cons in front of interests . For example, sometimes you value profit, and sometimes you also want to have the same reputation. What do you do? If you value profit purely, it’s simple. If you take one end , we will be hesitant. The plane is about to take off. Will you still eat? But sometimes the simplest and crudest way is particularly useful. We once had a business discussion. Do you remember it? It seemed to be Beijing or somewhere else . A big TV week or TV festival was held. After that there is a closing ceremony and an opening ceremony. The opening ceremony is broadcast live with a professional host and there may be a celebrity guest star. They have to speak Chinese and English. For example, we say welcome to the opening ceremony of the nth Beijing International Television Week. Then there is a celebrity who needs to speak English, which is welcome to the opening ceremony. Welcome is very simple. But the opening ceremony is actually quite difficult for someone who doesn’t learn English and who is only learning pronunciation. Have you forgotten? The person picked up the microphone and welcomed, then forgot and put it down. He was stunned for a moment and remembered it, then welcomed again, remembered it but still couldn’t say it and put it down again. The third time he welcomed , the professional host next to him took over and said welcome and something like that. Then we were talking about what to do. The cameraman next to him said why was he so stupid. He should say welcome , welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome. This is very good. This reaction was very appropriate . At that time, we thought it was very correct. This is the most suitable At that time, we thought, “welcome ,” open our hands together. You are the one who taught me. This is the English that suits me . I need to face this occasion. Welcome , welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, right? But we think it makes a lot of sense, and then it made me laugh to death. I always remember what I said, “right.” In fact, when it comes to the critical moment, you should not be clever or challenge yourself . The simplest and most basic ones are the most effective. This is really the way of nature and go with the flow. This is really. I think there is wisdom everywhere, and wisdom is shining . Look at me, my two besties, and I have never had the chance to use this until today . I always think that at the critical moment , if I forget the words, I will say “welcome .” Yes , I will definitely use it next time. I don’t have to memorize those English words. And you can’t say it once, you have to say “welcome, welcome ,” and then open your arms to welcome at the end . It will work. I want to say it like a magnifier, you know, it’s true that your life is to accumulate experience from all the mistakes. Now I belong to me, and I gradually realize that otherwise I can’t survive. That is to say, people make mistakes everywhere, right? Why do I always make mistakes? I get annoyed, you know, sometimes I remembered your caller ID. What’s wrong with caller ID? You forgot it. You see, she remembers everything about the two of us. We forgot what caller ID is. Have you forgotten it? It was like this. There was a function on the phone called caller ID. The landline had a caller ID function. Then Wentao was in Hong Kong at that time . Wentao’s home was in Shenzhen or Guangzhou . Guangzhou lived in Guangzhou at that time. He returned to Guangzhou and wanted to play something, so he called someone and said, “I can’t go today.” That thing, I didn’t return to Guangzhou today. The person said, “You don’t have caller ID in Guangzhou? ” 020 Wentao was shocked at the time and said, “What is this? What kind of black technology is this ? What kind of function is this ? I didn’t know at the time , so I just lied to people. You see, this is a response . You are right. You can’t rely on lying. Try not to lie, right? Explain to people that in fact, everyone in life is telling lies. Telling lies is the first sign of mental maturity in child psychology. He starts to use lies to cover up this matter. Of course, it’s not that telling lies is good , it means that he knows the pros and cons. In our lives, we often tell lies sometimes . For example, where did you go last night? In fact, you went there, and you told him I didn’t go because you were too lazy to talk about what happened last night, so you used a simple method to avoid it. It’s not that he didn’t have the intention to harm others , right? His purpose was not to deceive or harm others, but to save the cost of living. Look at this old man. For example, I attended the opening ceremony of someone’s movie last night. The movie was not very good, right? When I came back, you asked me if I went yesterday. I didn’t want to say it , so I said I didn’t watch it. This is simple. If I said I went, and you insisted on pressuring me and I said I didn’t want to say it, then no, you have to say it. So should I say it’s good or not? That’s what I mean . Look at this old man. So you see how rich my life is. I feel that there is such an old man setting traps and such a confidante who has tortured me for so many years, and there is also a person who can remember all the things in his past. I feel that I really have you. I am really very happy. Really and really, you two are willing to come at the same time because I was worried that you two would look down on each other, but you actually came at the same time. I am really very touched . Master Ma, please don’t think it’s disgusting. I came here today and I was thinking that I suddenly heard a song by chance and I felt this The lyrics are too much about the three of us and they ‘re sentimental again. Wen Tao used to cry whenever he watched the “News Broadcast”. This song is called “Brotherly Love”. I said, look at the lyrics. It defines brotherly love. Look, look , you’re still quick-witted. I told you , I felt that I accepted it. Although we can’t see each other every day , can’t I sing a few lines? Yes , oh my god , although we can’t see each other every day , you’re always in front of my eyes. Although we’re thousands of miles apart, you see, later we can’t see each other even once a year. No need to explain, sing quickly, but you’re thinking about me in your heart. You ‘re tone-deaf, but you still recite it. Although we seldom see each other now, the brotherly love will never change. Are you sure this song is sung like this? I’m never sure. There’s something more important than the song, and that is what brought about our century-long bond. It’s the craftsmanship and strength of GAC Honda Guandao, the luxurious ride is more comfortable, not stiff at all, no skills , all emotion . It’s great. Oh my god, why is this song so unaffectionate? I’ve never heard of this song before. Right, you didn’t sing “Xiao Fang” at that time. It wasn’t “Xiao Fang”. Although we can’t see each other every day, it was “Xiao Fang” . It wasn’t “Xiao Fang”. He didn’t sing “Xiao Fang” at that time . You were always in front of my eyes when I sang. You can’t see me properly. I will sing. Was there a song called “Xiao Wei”? There was a beautiful little girl. Her name was Xiao Wei . Who sang it? Huang Pinyuan. Yes , there was such a person. She had a pair of gentle eyes. She quietly walked into my heart . You forced me to listen to this song back then. It was you who sang it.